Updated: Dec 16, 2017
I used to play every Saturday morning at the local Little League, Larksville Little League. Everyone was split up into teams by shirt color, and the game was easy; hit the ball as hard as you can off a T. “Dave you’re up!” coach always said. I wasn’t’ the best on the team, but over time I became decently good.
Next to the t-ball field was the field for the older kids, the Major League field where everything was faster, more interactive, and where the balls were not played on at-stand but thrown from the pitcher mound by a player on the opposing team. As I stared at the ball on the T, I would swing my bat slowly towards it and right then back out. I eventually took a swing at the ball. It was an easy game and came naturally. I kept at it for the next few years and then had a breakdown.
As I grew older, I didn’t need a T anymore. It came when I knew how simple it was. I was hoping my days were hitting a ball off a T were over because I was trying to make the Major League. It was a sunny day in June, and one of my teammates was promoted to one of the teams in the Major League. I was the oldest on our team, and he was younger. We both were good, but he had a step up from me. My coach took me aside because he knew I was upset and wanted to talk to me about the whole situation. I was confused and started to cry, the coach looked at me and said to keep trying and don’t complain, you’ll get there. He knew I deserved to be with the older guys, but it wasn’t his say. A year later, I was in the Major League.
Tom Hanks was right when he said, if it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. It’s the hard that makes it great. I feel like we all can relate to this. One fashion show was a similar story that reminded me of the same moment from my younger days in the Little League. I was around familiar faces at SKINGRAFT in 2015 like Kate Nash, Whoopi Goldberg, Fabulous, and a few others. I worked hard enough to feel comfortable around everyone, but this day was different.
I made my way around the runway floor until I was stopped by Emily Bungert - Kelly Cutrone’s central PR Rep at the time.
“You’re fucking up my front row. I need you to leave. Now.”
I was in the middle of talking to Che’Nelle who was a well-known artist when Emily came up and kicked me out for not having a pass. I understood that I needed to leave, but as I sat down, I couldn’t get it out of my head. “Was I just yelled at by People’s Rev?
A few seasons later, I learned from my interaction with Emily and was able to talk my way out of trouble at the front of house when a few PR reps approached me, questioned me, and asked where my pass was for designer Michael Costello. Truth is, I didn’t have a press pass. The PR team told me at the front desk I had access to everything. Times like this can get confusing because even though the whole PR team is covering a show, one person at the front desk will approve your access while the runway floor may not get the same message. What usually happens is what exactly took place. I stood my ground. I said I was approved and my boss and I were terrific friends with Michael …etc. She soon was exhausted and gave me access to a pass sticker. Usually, I wouldn’t know what to do, but this time after being in the situation before I remembered to stand my ground and fake it.
Anything you do in life you are going to go through hard times that will stop you and may even break you down. There are going to be people that will always be a step ahead of you, and then there will still be people that will tell you off. But you learn from them both. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard is what makes it great.